SEX Part II

A few month's back I did a poll on Instagram to see if people wanted me to share on the subject of Sex or How to Fight for Joy! I knew when I saw Sarah Sinclair's emphatic response "SEX! SEX! SEX!" that I had to interview her for Part II of this conversation. I met this super sweet & spunky Texan in Montreal where she temporarily migrated to be an Au Pair. At the time she was both single and a self-proclaimed prude. Now she is happily married to Andrew and the mother of darling baby girl Stevie Rose. I had to interview her to hear more about how she went from prude to super passionate. So without further ado.... meet Sarah. A beautiful women with a heart of gold, 

who loves people like it's her full time job.

How To Fight for Joy

Photo Credit:  Roberto Nickson

Is it just me or is there a full blown attack on joy? Sometimes it's blatant and obvious like a looming cloud there to greet you first thing in the morning, and other times it's more of a chipping away. Almost like a series of events that chip away at joy:

• Scrolling through a series of happy highlights and exciting events on social media at a time when you're feeling lonely, bored or stuck!
• Looking in the mirror and feeling less than excited with who is looking back at you
• Disappointments and Unmet desires
• Hormones (it's a real thing...)

I want you to know that you're not alone. It can most definitely feel that way when you're in the middle of this 'fight' but you are NOT alone. Also, you're not a victim; you don't have to throw up a white flag and allow these feelings to colour your whole day. I want to share my Top Tips in Fighting for Joy (these are not nice-sounding theories they are proven strategies that I use whenever my joy is being shaken...and honey they work! ).

SEX

So 8 years ago you could not convince me that Sex and God went together. For me, it was like peanut butter and salad, or like adding chicken to your smoothie. The thought alone weirded me out. The thing is so much has changed since then (mostly internally) and I want to share things I've learnt along the way that have allowed me to embrace and navigate my sexuality (as a single christian woman) without any shame or fear!

Excited?! Me too.

 

For the Girl Who's Tired of Getting Burned

With Love,
Sherina Shantelle
xx

" I Want Her Life"

Photo Credit: Atikh Bana 

Paris, France
We know Instagram is not real, we've heard the quote about comparing our behind the scenes with everyones highlight reel, but every now and then you may see something that makes you think "Nope, I'm pretty convince that her life is better than mine. And frankly I wish I was her". No? Just me?  [nervous laugh]

Freedom from Fear of Failure

I heard about this social experiment they did where they divided an art class in two. They told half the class that they would be graded on the quantity of pots that they could make and they told the second group that they would be graded on the quality of the pots they made. Funny thing is the most beautiful high quality pots came from the first group because they weren't concerned about meeting the 'quality standards' they were free to create, make mistakes and improve with every pot they made. This group quickly learnt new ways of how they could improve. Meanwhile, the second group worked tirelessly to make their first pot perfect and didn't get nearly as great results!

Isn't that wild? It makes sense though right? The fear of failure and the need for perfection will literally paralyze you.