Sunday, May 6, 2018

How To Fight for Joy

Photo Credit:  Roberto Nickson

Is it just me or is there a full blown attack on joy? Sometimes it's blatant and obvious like a looming cloud there to greet you first thing in the morning, and other times it's more of a chipping away. Almost like a series of events that chip away at joy:

  • Scrolling through a series of happy highlights and exciting events on social media at a time when you're feeling lonely, bored or stuck!
  • Looking in the mirror and feeling less than excited with who is looking back at you
  • Disappointments and Unmet desires
  • Hormones (it's a real thing...)
I want you to know that you're not alone. It can most definitely feel that way when you're in the middle of this 'fight' but you are NOT alone. Also, you're not a victim; you don't have to throw up a white flag and allow these feelings to colour your whole day. I want to share my Top Tips in Fighting for Joy (these are not nice-sounding theories they are proven strategies that I use whenever my joy is being shaken...and honey they work! ).

Thursday, January 4, 2018


So 8 years ago you could not convince me that Sex and God went together. For me, it was like peanut butter and salad, or like adding chicken to your smoothie. The thought alone weirded me out. The thing is so much has changed since then (mostly internally) and I want to share things I've learnt along the way that have allowed me to embrace and navigate my sexuality (as a single christian woman) without any shame or fear!

Excited?! Me too.


Tuesday, August 29, 2017

For the Girl Who's Tired of Getting Burned

With Love,
Sherina Shantelle

" I Want Her Life"

Photo Credit: Atikh Bana 
Paris, France
We know Instagram is not real, we've heard the quote about comparing our behind the scenes with everyones highlight reel, but every now and then you may see something that makes you think "Nope, I'm pretty convince that her life is better than mine. And frankly I wish I was her". No? Just me?  [nervous laugh]

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Freedom from Fear of Failure

I heard about this social experiment they did where they divided an art class in two. They told half the class that they would be graded on the quantity of pots that they could make and they told the second group that they would be graded on the quality of the pots they made. Funny thing is the most beautiful high quality pots came from the first group because they weren't concerned about meeting the 'quality standards' they were free to create, make mistakes and improve with every pot they made. This group quickly learnt new ways of how they could improve. Meanwhile, the second group worked tirelessly to make their first pot perfect and didn't get nearly as great results!

Isn't that wild? It makes sense though right? The fear of failure and the need for perfection will literally paralyze you.

Saturday, May 21, 2016

How to Be Single


How to be single…
I promise this won't be a condescending post where I'm teaching you how to be single because I'm so good at it (HA!). No, it's more of a rallying of the troops, sharing some wisdom I found on the journey and encouraging you wherever you're at. Wether you're single and loving it, single and frustrated or in a dead-end relationship…I have you in mind.

When it comes to the subject of singleness or specifically single women there is a long and colourful spectrum. On one end there are days, moments or groups of people who feel like this...

and on the other end there are days, moments or groups of people who feel like this...

And if you're anything like me no part of this spectrum is foreign to you!
So here are a few nuggets I have on the subject of How to Be Single….